WhatLikeBeingMen

What It Is Like Being A Man

“I cannot protect you as affectively if you are attacking me. I can protect you better if you are working with me.”

They all want stability. 

So they attack you all of the time to test you, hoping you will prove you are stable because then they can rely on you and trust you to protect them. 

It sucks for you because everybody is attacking you all of the time, the people who are relying on you, who are responsible for, are attacking you all of the time.

This is without external influences jostling on your patch who are also attacking you all the time. 

The result is continual stress. 

And with no recognition for any of it.

Some of the people you are responsible for, you can rely on them because they work with you to make life easier for everybody. It is not disrespecting them to expect them to conform to the harmony you strive to create and sustain. 

instructing them the same principle by which we are find works in achieving harmony, stability, it is an internal process. Only through this attitude can we alleviate our stress load. Only through this attitude can we continue to function with stability. It being internal, relies on the external person. 

The most successful leader is not a leader who creates slaves he has to be responsible for but a leader who gives sustainable autonomy to everybody under his charge until they are strong enough to thrive for themselves. 

The system of respect and trade with your allies enables long-term peace between otherwise rival individuals and networks, which increase the stress for everybody involved.

This is true in friendship circles, families, businesses, organisations, nations, whenever there are people. It is a fundamental part of the nature of our species. It is how we work best. It is how we are supposed to be.

Unfortunately, demand of stress load we have to bear most of us feel we should not have to. We do what we can to reduce stress, in ourselves and in others. This requires safe outlets for stress.

For men, very often this is the gym, sports, sex. Physical activities. Which helps to balance testosterone.

“I cannot protect you as affectively if you are attacking me. I can protect you better if you are working with me.”