“If it seems too good to be true, it is.”
This is absolutism and the worst type of cynicism.
You send a signal out to the universe describing your perfect harmony and the qualities you require from a person who would help you to sustain your perfect harmony because they are organically and naturally perfectly in harmony with you as you are with them.
The nature of reality is like water, it seeks balance. Like electricity, it seeks balance this is what we call earthing. Energy seeks balance and you are energy.
At some point you mistook a dysfunction meme for the truth. Your operating system has been hijacked. You have some dodgy coding there.
You tell the universe what do you want and it gives it to you.
Then faced with confirmation that the universe is altruistic and that there is harmony in the universe, you doubt it and assume it is a trick.
This is a red flag signifier that you are broken.
People who are not broken recognise this immediately. They do exist.
This is a caste system based on the individuals relationship with harmony.
The playing field is the interface between an individual’s self-respect and maintenance ability of their own energy, and the external universe.
All of those dysfunctions and delusions generate toxic energy. If you bring that into a relationship, it pollutes.
He wishes he had been able to voice this quite so succinctly at the time she said those words. It took two months for the insight to clear sufficiently to express it. She had gone through her checklist of the qualities of her perfect guy and he had ticked every box.
Her next reaction was to tell him to never message her again revealing that she does not trust life, she does not trust herself. Her insecurity and mistrust of the universe overpowered her sense of integrity. She has no integrity.
That she lied about her divorce status and later confessed she is still married is an example of why she is untrustworthy. She lied. She lied because her own internal balance system is self-deception.
Attempting to straighten her out, as a member of the community, as a friend, as an at one time potential sexual partner, as a human being being humane, as a person who is fed up with having to put up with so much delusion and too often having to experience the consequences of other peoples dysfunction.
“Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment!
Cleverness is mere belief;
Intuition is divine.”
Jalal Uddin Rumi
A well written blog about Avoidant Personality Disorder