Sunday 29 November 2020

A Pattern



It is written for the perspective of a man/woman however it applies equally as valid to woman/man. I did not use “they/them” gender-greyness because divisionism is counterproductive, also it is from personal experience.


.1

She wants him now

He says maybe let’s wait


.2

She wants him now

He says maybe let’s wait


.3

He wants her now

She says No too late


.4

Typically never happens

Both gone different directions

stop communicating




We can recognise from this pattern there to be two types of people. Those who give up if they don’t get laid within two meets, and those who require more than two meets to feel comfortable sharing pleasure with a person. The division line on when a person moves on depends if they are getting what they are looking for: 


Friendship First vs Disposable Shag


The intention to allow a person to get to know you and to care about them as a person rather than a sex toy. Needs of the body with no other accountability. This works only where this is made clear from the start otherwise it is manipulation which can perhaps be forgiven as insecurity and inexperience rather than accused of narcissism for intentionally inflicting emotional entanglements from a person engaged in developing friendship and emotions toward the player. 



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