narcissism

2017 and everybody is being programmed to conform to the new grid for social division based on identifying everybody else as narcissists and therefore dangerous. This is even more powerful than setting gender against gender because it functions regardless of gender.

Many of the "identifiers" actually describe other behaviour. To use these indicators is to foster a permanent state of paranoia that your closest partner is secretly out to get you and to hold you into that state.

Any sign which slightly suggests an indication of narcissism (for example contemplating a topic from a different perspective than habitual attitude, is regarded a sign of an evolving mind, however in the context of anti-narcissism it is a red flag).

Having said this - I have had more than my own share of Narcissistic personality Disorder abusers destroying my life, self-esteem, etc. The best way to deal with them is to recognize them as a grindstone sharpening your clarity. A zen master can not become a zen master without a petty tyrant.

To paraphrase Don Matus from Carlos Casteneda books about Shamanism:  

"In the old days, Men of Knowledge would seek out Petty Tyrants because they are the best teachers to help us achieve becoming Sorcerers." 

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/06/the-toxic-attraction-between-an-empath-a-narcissist/

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/06/mirror-mirror-on-the-wall30-traits-of-a-narcissist/

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/06/traits-of-an-empath-how-to-recognise-one/

http://healthfoundations.pw/20-subtle-and-hidden-signs-identifying-a-psychopath-narcissist/

A lot of the descriptors in this particular link from Health foundations are describing more experienced and spiritually developed people, and people who are distracted by ordinary things of life, from the perspective of less experienced and more fearful people.

It is designed to give people a mind-set where they recognize a more liberated and successful person and target that person as a narcissist therefore a danger to society.

Ergo: The whole manuscript has been written by a master narcissist with the agenda of dividing society so that fearful inexperienced people do not mingle with potential teachers who can help them advance. This is anti-community based.

There is a cross-over between some behaviours and we all need to be aware that in this cross-over is ground for exploitation. Which is what is probably going to happen if people take the advice of this link from Health Foundations as 100%

I am a qualified counselor with a lot of experience of both NPD and its victims, and usually the grey-area between.




http://mysticalraven.com/health/4629/anxiety-disorders-typically-caused-by-exposure-to-narcissistic-abuse


http://bigthink.com/philip-perry/been-traumatized-here-is-how-ptsd-rewires-the-brain?utm_campaign=Echobox&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook#link_time=1489162219

http://bigthink.com/ideafeed/some-teens-use-self-harm-as-emotional-medication

http://bigthink.com/ideafeed/watching-violent-events-unfold-over-social-media-can-cause-vicarious-trauma




http://thenarcissisticlife.com/the-narcissist-in-court/


http://www.rebelcircus.com/blog/gaslighting-mind-game-abusers-use-make-victims-think-theyre-going-crazy/



http://personality-testing.info/tests/NPI/

https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/3384/hidden-language-narcissists-manipulate-traumatize-victims/

http://www.lisaescott.com/2012/03/18/why-narcissist-always-turns-idolizing-you-utter-contempt

http://www.thenarcissisticpersonality.com/male-victims-of-narcissists/


http://iheartintelligence.com/2017/03/10/emotionally-intelligent-people-deal-toxic-people/?=minds


http://www.reportfella.com/2017/03/reactive-abuse-they-call-you-abusive.html?m=0


http://latesthealthnews.pw/10-unbelievable-behaviors-of-the-narcissist/


https://narcsite.com/2017/03/18/the-narcissistic-truths-no-222/

https://themindsjournal.com/the-toxic-attraction-between-an-empath-and-a-narcissist/

https://freefromtoxic.com/2017/01/02/the-8-most-common-narc-sadistic-conversation-control-tactics-2/

http://viralhealthnews.info/anxiety-disorders-typically-caused-by-exposure-to-narcissistic-abuse/

http://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/03/this-is-what-happens-when-you-discard-an-abusive-narcissist-first/

https://afternarcissisticabuse.wordpress.com/2017/03/29/the-narcissist-isnt-attacking-your-faults-and-shortcomings-heshe-is-attacking-your-virtues-and-accomplishments-this-is-how-they-manage-you-down-to-feeling-worth-2/


http://www.outofthestorm.website/cptsd-description/

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-28186/7-signs-your-relationship-is-abusive-even-if-theres-no-physical-violence.html

https://letmereach.com/2015/09/03/3-best-kept-narcissistic-secrets-that-will-make-everything-clear/

https://lonerwolf.com/are-you-an-empathic-narcissist/

http://www.puckermob.com/moblog/13-things-to-know-about-someone-who-grew-up-emotionally-abused

http://www.psychopath-research.com/forum/ubbthreads.php/topics/1837/16_Faces_of_a_Psychopath

http://americanhealthnews.org/15-things-narcissists-dont-do-must-look-no-15/

https://luckyottershaven.com/2016/09/01/is-narcissism-really-a-form-of-possession/

http://healthfoundations.pw/7-weird-things-that-only-narcissists-will-do/

http://www.theearthchild.co.za/every-single-one-10-things-emotional-abuse-1/

http://healthguidelines.co/5-sneaky-things-narcissists-do-to-take-advantage-of-you/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-signs-gaslighting-in-relationship

https://freefromtoxic.com/2015/07/02/11-mental-tips-tricks-to-move-on-after-narcissistic-abuse/

http://healthfoundations.pw/9-ways-to-tell-if-the-victim-blog-you-read-is-run-by-a-narcissist/

https://freefromtoxic.com/

http://healthfoundations.pw/7-subtle-signs-that-your-life-is-dangerous-for-narcissist/8/

http://dailysecrets.press/4-brutally-honest-things-survivors-of-narcissistic-abuse-want-to-say-to-their-abusers/

https://letmereach.com/2014/08/27/6-steps-to-emotional-healing-after-narcissistic-abuse-1-is-most-important/

https://afternarcissisticabuse.wordpress.com/2014/08/19/narcissism-is-an-identity-disorder/

http://iheartintelligence.com/2017/03/31/anxiety-disorders-narcissistic-abuse/

http://healthissues.pw/19-signs-you-were-raised-by-a-narcissistic-mother-or-father-2/


"The personality disordered requires constant external stimulation. They have no ability to go inward or to do independent and lone activities. Their inner-self is dead and only awakened when there is a people-source feeding it."
http://www.truth2day.com/2017/04/the-dangerous-female-friend-of.html

https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/how-to-get-someone-to-let-their-guard-down

http://www.truth2day.com/2017/03/every-single-one-of-these-10-things-is.html

http://healthfoundations.pw/19-signs-you-were-raised-by-a-narcissistic-parent/

http://healthfoundations.pw/8-things-narcopaths-use-against-you/

http://latesthealthnews.pw/the-7-things-narcissists-are-most-afraid-of/

http://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2016/06/20-diversion-tactics-highly-manipulative-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-use-to-silence-you/

http://healthadvices.co/5-signs-you-are-having-a-narcissistic-sibling/

http://iheartintelligence.com/2017/03/10/narcissists-sociopaths-convince/

https://shrink4men.wordpress.com/2009/01/30/10-signs-your-girlfriend-or-wife-is-an-emotional-bully/

https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-the-narcissist-projects-hisher-behaviour-onto-you/

http://letmereach.com/2014/09/05/narcissists-and-the-sex-agenda/

http://healthcureusa.com/8-common-narcissist-lies/

http://health.yourdailyideas.com/19-signs-you-were-raised-by-a-narcissistic-mother-or-father/

http://www.factrider.com/2017/04/things-your-narcissist-ex-will-do-post.html

https://fractalenlightenment.com/40746/issues/cognitive-dissonance-mass-media-enslavement-human-raceways-seeing-cognitive-dissonance-media-manipulating-youdouble-think-media-manipulation-youre-lied

http://www.drsyrasderksen.com/blog/seeing-narcissism-in-the-brain#sthash.81dMw5vY.DMO1uMEg.dpbs
"NPD affects about 1% of the general population."

Narcissistic Personality Disorder affects about 1% of the general population and it has been shown to impair interpersonal functioning. This groundbreaking research will likely help legitimize the disorder and, ironically, help people to empathize with people who are suffering with this illness. - See more at: http://www.drsyrasderksen.com/blog/seeing-narcissism-in-the-brain#sthash.81dMw5vY.DMO1uMEg.dpuf

Narcissistic Personality Disorder affects about 1% of the general population and it has been shown to impair interpersonal functioning. This groundbreaking research will likely help legitimize the disorder and, ironically, help people to empathize with people who are suffering with this illness. - See more at: http://www.drsyrasderksen.com/blog/seeing-narcissism-in-the-brain#sthash.81dMw5vY.DMO1uMEg.dpuf

Narcissistic Personality Disorder affects about 1% of the general population and it has been shown to impair interpersonal functioning. This groundbreaking research will likely help legitimize the disorder and, ironically, help people to empathize with people who are suffering with this illness. - See more at: http://www.drsyrasderksen.com/blog/seeing-narcissism-in-the-brain#sthash.81dMw5vY.DMO1uMEg.dpuf

Narcissistic Personality Disorder affects about 1% of the general population and it has been shown to impair interpersonal functioning. This groundbreaking research will likely help legitimize the disorder and, ironically, help people to empathize with people who are suffering with this illness. - See more at: http://www.drsyrasderksen.com/blog/seeing-narcissism-in-the-brain#sthash.81dMw5vY.DMO1uMEg.dpuf

https://www.powerofpositivity.com/11-ways-narcissists-will-try-manipulate/

http://flyingmonkeysdenied.com/2016/01/18/narcissistic-people-use-denial-as-a-brainwashing-technique/

https://kittysjones.wordpress.com/2017/04/12/dishonest-ways-of-being-dishonest-an-exploration-of-conservative-euphemisms/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/tech-support/201607/the-gaslighted-child

http://diseasescure.pw/how-does-the-narcissist-handle-pregnancy/

http://www.truth-code.com/2017/03/breaking-free-why-breaking-up-with.html?m=1

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EtGNXwuoYUU

http://www.psychiatrictimes.com/articles/reexperiencinghyperaroused-and-dissociative-states-posttraumatic-stress-disorder

http://www.truth-code.com/2017/03/breaking-free-why-breaking-up-with.html?m=1

http://www.thenarcissisticpersonality.com/future-faking/

http://thoughtcatalog.com/kirsten-corley/2017/04/10-things-that-happen-meeting-a-good-guy-after-a-toxic-relationship/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bfuPE3x7JmE&t=5s 
Why are we targetted by narcissists part 1

https://narcsite.com/2017/04/13/ten-rejections-of-intimacy-2/

http://health.yourdailyideas.com/11-things-not-to-do-with-narcissists/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WVLZXLyO-M&feature=youtu.be
20 signs you are with a covert narcissist

http://mysticalraven.com/relationships/5342/love-bombing-are-you-a-victim-of-this-common-love-fraud-tactic


http://ehelth.online/2017/04/15/are-you-dating-a-narcissist-9-warning-signs-to-watch-out-for/2/

I took the liberty of rephrasing this checklist to say exactly the same thing in different words.
The purpose of this is to highlight that people are being manipulated by being trained to identify normal behavior as sociopathic behavior and to prejudice against normal people who are doing normal things as a part of 'divide and control' strategy to segregate people, to destroy couples, families, communities and nations, generally everybody is affected.

I also changed the gender to highlight how sexist the original document is and therefore it targets women to be brainwashed into rejecting normal males. This is part of fifth wave feminism.

1. She does not feel she has been rewarded enough for her achievements and hopes to receive recognition for them
2. She is very focused on her goals and knows what she wants in life
3. She is special because everybody is special and she seeks to interact with people on the same level of being as herself and where she intends to be.
4. She needs positive attention energy and recognition of their value to thrive.
5. She is entitled to live a life worth living and benefit from available cultural norms.
6. She makes the most of her situation and social life. The original statement for this does describe a sociopath. The original statement does not directly use the word 'manipulator'. Contemplate: "She saw an opportunity and took it." And contemplate ethics.
7. Her strength is her logical mind and clear thinking. She is a rationalist although lacks social skills. The original statement does bullet-point describe a symptom of NPD.
8. She feels emotionally threatened by people who she perceives as more successful and able than herself and is aware of others feeling the same way about her. Note that the original statement about jealousy relies on emotional awareness which contradicts statement 7 regarding lack of empathy. Answering that contradiction leads into a more complicated topic of functioning of the limbic cortex and higher developed cerebrum of the brain (reptile mind v mammals).
9. She is confidence and believes in herself. She enjoys sharing her knowledge with others even perhaps regarding it as a social duty even when they do not wish to receive it because they are less experienced and educated and resent her ability.

On analysis there are only TWO of these 9 statements which indicate a genuine narcissist and one of them is debatable. Just enough to be persuasive by altering the context of the other statements toward that bias.

The writer of this DEBUNK has been psychologically profiled and has a Narcissist Rating of 20% the average is 35% where 50% enters into "concern that this person is a narcissist" and 60%+ is degrees of actual clinical Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

The original list copypasted from page 2 of the site:

1. He exaggerates his achievements in the hope of receiving praise from other people.
2. He’s preoccupied with fantasies of limitless success, love, and brilliance.
3. He believes he’s special and should only associate with other special people.
4. He needs to be admired.
5.He feels entitled and believe his needs should always be met.
6. He takes advantage of, and exploits other people.
7. He lacks empathy for other people.
8. He gets jealous of other people and believes they are jealous of them.
9. He’s arrogant and he displays self-important, condescending, behaviors.

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/08/gaslighting-the-mind-game-everyone-should-know-about/

https://www.powerofpositivity.com/5-things-never-expect-narcissist/?c=viralcontent

http://healthrehabs.info/19-signs-you-were-raised/

https://www.powerofpositivity.com/7-signs-someone-trying-psychologically-manipulate/

http://nymedtimes.info/how-to-recover-after-a-narcissistic-relationship/

http://covertnarcissism.blogspot.co.uk/2016/02/character-assassination-narcissist.html?m=1

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism-decoded/2017/04/11-things-not-to-do-with-narcissists/

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/305171139_Narcissistic_admiration_and_rivalry_in_the_context_of_personality_metatraits

https://medium.com/@sheaemmafett/10-things-i-wish-i-d-known-about-gaslighting-22234cb5e407


http://ushealthcares.info/7-sneaky-things-narcissists-say-to-get-you-back/

STATEMENT

STATEMENT

This blog is part of the open discourse on ‘what life is like’ and ‘issues we face’.

She accused me of being a Narcissist (NPD). Here is my debunk of that allegation. 

She is wrong, either willfully or because she is a zombi. 

screenshot from https://psychcentral.com/disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder-symptoms/

1. Advertising what I do, marketing my business, is not “showing off that I am better than everybody else” it is marketing my business using things I have made with my skill set. The objects are what they are and they speak for themselves. They have won awards. They have won grants funding from several different sources who believe in them. This gives me encouragement that what I am doing has some value. It is quantifiable and not imaginary. As an artist I see only the flaws where I can improve, much more than I see the bits that work. I suffer low self esteem to such extent it is catalogued with the GP and has been presented as a fact in a PIP claim court case which I won. County judges accept that I have low self esteem. Doctors accept that I have low self esteem. The fact I do not socialize because of my low self esteem speaks volumes. This is the opposite to believing myself superior without commensurate achievements. I know what levels I have achieved. Sometimes they are further than most people have achieved, often they are not. Is there a problem with being proud of my achievements and using them to promote my business?

2) preoccupation with fantasies of success verses very focused on attempting to make a successful business. Are these the same thing?

3) Everybody is unique. Everybody is special. I have no problem with accepting this as a reality. I refuse to believe I am less special than anyone else and I refuse to believe I am not unique because clearly I am. I do not believe that to be a mental illness, I believe that to be obvious common sense.

4) Requires excessive admiration. No I simply want to discuss being a creative with other creative people. It is the beautiful object and not the beautiful creator of that object which is the topic of debate and critique.

5) Strong sense of entitlement. Please be very aware that Human Rights and Lawful Rights are called Rights for a reason despite living in a society which tries to erode them and undermine them at every step of the way. Example, being told that my business concept, quote "is crazy" unquote and that I "should work voluntarily (eg: not getting paid) for existing companies instead of wasting my time" by Wales Council Business Development Officer (happens to be gender female) did not prevent alternate sources (happens to be non-welsh and male gender) giving me grants funding.

6) Is exploitative of others. I paid a freelancer a lot more than she expected for making some art for my company. I tip taxi drivers. I am not manipulative in fact I reject manipulators from my life.

7) Lacks empathy. I have nvq2 counselling. I am a natural empath. It is a flaw rather than a strength, I would get much further if I stopped giving things away from free or taking time to listen to and support people who need to ‘get it off their chest’ and trust me to do so based on my nature and my life experience meaning my advice is usually pretty good (example, a friend who is now suing Wales Social Services for their committing Fraud and Libel which there is evidence for, instead of them taking her kids off her for fabricated reasons - they lost the case). 

8) Is often envious of others. I think, given the above, you can clearly see why such a person would make allegations that I am mentally unstable rather than accept me for what I am. I am proud of people who achieve success through their own effort and not through corruption. I expose corruption. The corrupt slander the truthers. It’s not that I do not care about other people’s success, it simply doesn’t make me feel bad about myself or resentful toward them. What I object to and have difficulties with is when they exploit other people to get there - I am usually the one counselling those who have been walked all over.

9) Regularly shows arrogant haughty behaviour. I am aloof yes. This is because I do not suffer fools and do not have time for people who my instincts or evidence is telling me are dodgy. It is also because being low self esteem i have not developed interpersonal skills. I became a counsellor to overcome this because it mostly relies being a good listener rather than a good talker.


Having read all the above, you make your own mind up whether I am NPD as accused or whether its another feminazi social-alienation strategy and control game, based on … lets see now, envy and repressionism, perhaps? The whole concept of ‘the bigger they are the harder they fall and if I destroy someone I see as being bigger than me, that means I must be bigger than them’ - which sane people call ‘trouble-makers’.

I do not know if she is wrong willfully or because she is a zombi. She might be playing mind games / control games with me or she might simply be a robotic super-ego mind-slave whose belief structure is based on disfunctionality-causing indoctrination. There are a lot of them about. In either case, I told her to fuck off because i do not want either type of person in my life. Actually my specific words, which I have said to quite a few people when they have been abusing and exploiting my good nature, were: “Either give me some respect (which i deserve) or fuck off and leave me alone.” So far not one person who I have had recourse to say this phrase to has apologized and stuck around to accept what I am doing is harmless, indeed constructive. They all fuck off and then slander me behind my back, tell each other and the police that I am dangerously insane, and permeate their delusional versions of reality because it is easier for them to live that way than to accept that they are prejudice and jealous.This does not make me egotistic, because it is their control drama I am having to contend with when all i want is an easy life of living in peace and making art for money.

I have had to deal with a lot, i would say an excessive number of abusive, manipulative sociopaths whose favourite game is to abuse the victim and then discredit the victim when the victim stands up for himself. I am not a victim. By telling people I do not want to be their victim, that is not a grandiose sense of self importance. It is imperative to know this difference. Feminazi believe they are being clever by playing these games. Compare their creative productivity which is abusive and verbal / mind control with mine which is physical thus impersonal and has financial value. Compare their social reputation as clever villains with the number of people who have been helped through rather than into counseling. This is not unwarranted pride at my accomplishments. This is all verifiable. Another point is that prior to my having told these types to either “give me some respect or fuck off”, all of them are people who have before turning into vampires, come to me for emotional, mental and financial support, assuming me to be a limitless well of all three. 

“Successful people do not play games.”

The Games People Play by Dr Eric Berne.

GasLit Trolls

Previously in this series: 

Troll Slayer 101

Troll Admin Strategy 101

What gas-lighting IS and what gas-lighting is NOT


gaslight
ˈɡaslʌɪt/
verb
gerund or present participle: gaslighting

   “ manipulate (someone) by psychological means into doubting their own sanity. ”

from Google definitions 

“Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or members of a group, hoping to make targets question their own memory, perception, and sanity. Using persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction, and lying, it attempts to destabilize the target and delegitimize the target's belief."

 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting

The NPD favourite trick is to convince people that a person who exposed them or who the NPD fears will expose them, is insane. That is called gas-lighting by proxy. To convince a person that they are themself insane is called gas-lighting.

Gas-lighting is NOT exposing a troll / NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder).

Gas-lighting is NOT a person incapable of assimilating Reality because it differs from their delusion (cognitive dissonance).

Trolls (behaviour based) and NPD (outlook based) go hand in hand.

NPD includes the inability to assess reality because to do so denies the excuse to bully their chosen victim. NPD includes behaviour of not letting go of a chosen victim even after the victim has exposed the bully. NPD includes behaviour of victim-blaming. This includes labelling the victim with the same behaviour which the NPD is themself doing. It is a method of self-boosting the NPDs ego at the cost of the victims reputation. It is a method of persuading people to ignore the victim and therefore refuse the reality that the NPD has been discredited for abusive behaviour. What this behaviour does is forces observers into three main camps with two additional camps.

Those FOR and those AGAINST are divisionary tactics, divide and conquer is a favourite game of the NPD. The third camp are those who refuse to take sides and step back from the equation, not wanting to get involved.

There is also a fourth group who recognise the situation for what it is and support the victim discreetly so as not to attract attention of the NPD and so as to help the victim detach from the ‘game’ played upon them by the NPD.

A fifth group are the same but they attempt to detract the NDP from playing the game upon the victim. This is more dangerous as it involves energetically with a known NPD.  

The NPD favourite trick is to convince people that a person who exposed them or who the NPD fears will expose them, is insane. That is called gas-lighting by proxy. To convince a person that they are themself insane is called gas-lighting.


“Instances may range from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred up to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.”
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting

Disorientation includes use of StrawMan Arguments to distract form the main focal point of a Troll-Slayers argument / exposition. A favourite trick among Trolls is for the group to alternate methods of attack so that different members of the gang are using different strawman arguments to distract the target in attempt to gain leverage and upset them by ridiculing anything they have written or said in a fluster. The manipulation of a target into a “mentally impaired state” does not mean the target is mentally ill, simply they are being purposefully confused which can happen to anybody - these forms of attack are designed to do just exactly that. If done by Police this is an interrogation technique which has been made illegal due to the observed short- and long-term effects on the victims cognitive abilities. It is trauma inducing and recognized that it destabilizes people and is a cause for PTSD Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.

On web forums it creates an emotional response in the target which is then followed up by the trolls describing the emotionally upset person as a troll on their forum, provoking them to lose their balance. The only way to survive this is to recognize the other forum users as trolls and leave the forum immediately. Attempting to hold your cool because of your moral superiority is going to get you no-where with people of entrenched mindsets whose agenda is not to have a civil conversation but to play an energy-game of ego control and domination superiority.

Unfortunately very often they can not recognize this is what they are doing themselves because trolls genuinely are that stupid and because NPD genuinely are that self-absorbed and self-righteous. Remember that it is a classified mental health illness. An aspect of which is to enjoy relative positions of authority and exploit anyone they can get away with.

This reveals a major flaw in any hierarchy based society because the psychopaths gravitate toward positions from which they can exploit others and surround themselves with reinforcements, their “like-minded” gang. They describe themselves as ‘society’, interestingly not ‘community’ because the concepts differ sufficiently that ‘community’ includes anybody in the wider sense of people whereas a society is a club with rules and membership. 

You are not dealing with sane, rational people. you are dealing with organized mobs of psychopaths led by a charismatic bully who the others fear and envy. This fear and envy is a thing they describe by mis-using the word ‘respect’, which when used properly does have another meaning altogether. Respect is earned, trust is earned, these are not given to someone simply because they have a role in a society.

Cyber Bullying IS Crime

Also in this series: 

Troll Slayer 101

Troll Admin Strategy 101

Gas Lit Trolls

Net Vamps